The Warrior Mindset Part 2
I love when people respond to what I write. So this morning I opened my email to find a newsletter from one of these ‘Warrior Mindset’ guys. I guess he thought I was talking about him. What I was really talking about was a whole set of these guys who all seem to have the same problem. They look at life as if it is war. Here is the first few paragraphs from this newsletter:
“A notable NLP trainer named Tom recently wrote in a newsletter stating that the “warrior mindset offended him” and that it “only appealed to the weak-minded and desperate.”
That is his opinion and he is entitled to it, but what is he actually saying? Is his belief one of a pacifist and therefore doesn‚t believe in the traditional definition of war and equates that to a warrior mindset? If so I would better understand.
Saying „the warrior mindset offends me‰ and „the warrior mindset only appeals to the weak-minded‰ is like saying that “gyms and universities offend me”, and “gyms only appeal to the fat and lazy” and “universities only appeal to the ignorant and stupid”
Preposterous, isn’t it?
Because in fact, gyms tend appeal to the strong and healthy, and the learning halls of universities appeal to the wise and intelligent. Likewise, the “warrior mindset” and “martial arts concepts” tend to appeal to those strong of mind and personally empowered and knowledgeable.”
This guy just does not get it. So maybe this email will find it’s way to him so that he can get past this ‘warrior’ junk.
Using gyms, education, or even martial arts to compensate for low self esteem never works. That is what the ‘warrior’ mindset promotes. It appeals to the weak and desperate because they will do anything not to feel weak and desperate. I see this time after time. Highly educated people that can’t connect with anyone. Insecure gym rats that think if they just get a little bigger that they will finally be accepted. Martial artists that try to expand a good system way beyond it’s ability to help people.
I like martial arts. I have studied for years. I don’t think walking around as a warrior is a great way to make friends. I have seen that mindset screw a lot of people up. He states that this mindset is for those who already feel: strong of mind and personally empowered and knowledgeable. The truth is that if you already feel that way then there is no need to go to to adopt a warrior mindset. I could take this one more step forward and guess that he thinks that being a warrior leads to being strong of mind and personally empowered and knowledgeable.
Those who buy into this mindset want to feel powerful to suppress their feelings of weakness. That causes a variety of internal conflicts that can cause real problems. The reason is that there is no balance in this mindset and that is demonstrated by the above few paragraphs by this ‘warrior’.
First he accuses me of being a pacifist. Great example of the flaw in a ‘warrior’ mindset. In that mindset if you are not their definition of a warrior then you must be a pacifist. In their mind being a pacifist equates to being weak. Weakness is bad and the only way not to be weak is to be a warrior. In their minds life is war. In war there are only winners and losers. I can’t wait for the “Warrior Love Making DVD- How to win in bed by being first.”
Life is too short to constantly having to be at war with everyone. It is pathetic. It never works. It only give you the illusion of being strong of mind and personally empowered and knowledgeable. Does that make ne a pacifist? No. I know that there is a time to be a warrior. That is when you are at war. It has a context where it is valid.
In the past I have dealt with these kinds of people. They are so stuck with being at war that they think it is the answer to everything. The truth it that someone who is really secure and strong knows when not to be. Balance is the answer.
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after saying that i am not the only one ripped off……makes a feel a little better
Agung
The best way to get balanced is the 3D Mind.
BTW…I posted it when I noticed so many people getting ripped of by self help ‘warriors’ who did nothing more that promote weakeness and fear.
Tom Vizzini
then how do you can make yourself emotionally strong and balanced?
btw i wished u posted this article a lot earlier…
Agung
The Key is Balance. Inside the competition you keep score.
The problem is when everything become a competition. Everyone become a target. Every interaction is a war and you have to be a warrior to win any encounter.
Competition and a warrior mindset are two different things. If you take on a warrior identity in social situations then you are using that mindset to compensate for you weakness and insecurity.
If you are actually in a war then you need the mindset of a warrior.
The problem is that to often I have seen this mindset promoted to weak people in order to help them feel strong. That only covers up the problem and never deals with making them really strong and balanced
Thanks for your comment
Tom
The site is called “Strength Finder” and here’s the definition of competition driven people:
Competition–People strong in the Competition theme measure their progress against the performance of others. They strive to win first place and revel in contests.
My comment is that not all people that think this way have a low self esteem but it’s simply what motivates them. And I think you would agree because this is simply part of a MOTIVATION…not life philosophy. I too agree that living your life with the mindset ‘I’m gonna beat everyone up’ is not that good.
Is the “warrior mindset” the same as “competition” or “challenge mindset?” For example, I get so motivated when I see wars (not because of the war itself but because it’s competition.) If you read the Strength book where they researched over 1 million people you’ll see that some people are motivated by competition and challenge.
It’s not that I’m low self esteem or something but I think competition and challenges are a healthy thing for the sake of achieving a goal that would benefit lot of people.
So I would be 50-50 on this issue. What do you think Tom?
Hi there,
Everything dynamic and very positively!
Have a nice day
Elcoj
So true. And best of all is when you can be flexible like this and reap the rewards life brings you when you adjust to a situation and interact with others. I don’t want everything to be a battle, in most things I just get more out of it when it’s a challenge rather than a fight. One thing about great fighting skills is knowing when and learning how little to actually fight. I’m going to have to catch up on these emails, these are great!
As a lifelong martial artist and long time student of human interaction, I agree 100%. Awesome observations.
I’ve met people like those you describe, and you’ve hit the nail on the head with your description of them. Weak, low self esteem, trying to live their life according what they’ve seen in The Last Samurai, and totally missing the point.
Fantastic post, sir!
Tom I agree with you 100%. The warrior mindset is great for warfare and dangerous situations such as being assaulted.etc The rest of the time it’s an impediment to enjoying life. Notice how many warriors are loners? Who wants to be friends with someone who is ALWAYS looking for conflict.?
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