I hear it all the time.
I am going to do X next Monday.
I am almost ready to do X.
I want to do X and will when I am ready.
It is as if some people think that there is this magical thing known as being ‘ready’. As if one day it just happens. Then when ‘ready’ happens they will suddenly begin to have the life they desire. In the mean time they sit and do nothing waiting for the ‘Magic Ready’ to come flying in the window.
Then they complain that others have great lives and they don’t.
So they crawl back into their lives where they are poor, drunk, fat, alone, friendless, isolated addicted, or whatever else and wait for the ‘Magic Ready’. They are then disappointed when the Magic Ready never shows up.
They DO have reasons. I am not in the right shape. I need to be able to focus. I am waiting for the right timing. I need more information. I want to make sure I do it right. They make up stories that they believe that justifies waiting for the ‘Magic Ready’.
They do have plans. They are great at making plans. They will use those plans when??? When the Magic Ready show up…
Listen… I know right now there are those reading this whose brains are screaming at me saying that I just don’t understand! Their life is different. They have challenges. Their ‘reasons’ are real.
Bullshit…
Here is the real truth. People who wait for the ‘Magic Reason’ are afraid. If they take action they could fail. It might be painful. They might get rejected. Other people might judge them. In other words…. it will hurt.
Well here is the real truth… they are right. It will hurt. What they don’t realize is that it hurts EVERYONE. Failing never feels good. It sucks.
The difference is this. Those who have the life they want are able to deal with the pain. They realize it is part of the process. They are resilient and adapt to failure. Yeah, it still sucks but they get over it and start moving again.
REALITY CHECK
There is no Magic Ready! You will sit there forever wasting your life away. BTW I won’t feel sorry for you because it is your choices that keep you there even if it may not be your choices that got you there…
Read that again
it is your choices that keep you there even if it may not be your choices that got you there…
Those who are waiting for the ‘Magic Ready’ are really waiting for a painless way for them to accomplish whatever it is they want to accomplish.
Then they seek out things like “Motivation’, ‘Positive thinking, and ‘Dream boards’. The lie of much of the self-improvement field is that they can make you feel so good that you can overpower the pain. That mindset makes you WEAK. It makes you FRAGILE.
It is like a bunch of ZOMBIES trying to eat enough brains to make them smarter but… it just never happens. Self-improvement zombies just keep waiting to eat enough good feelings that the ‘Magic Ready’ suddenly appears in their life and everything is sunshine and posies.
Many of you reading this are zombies and you don’t even know it. You think you are preparing yourself but all you are really doing is looking for the next dose of emotional sugar coating to make your life painless. You unthinkingly find yourself on Amazon craving the self-help zombie addiction of another book. Another video. Another seminar. Another ‘Magic Ready’.
Mindlessly stumbling through life waiting for the Magic Ready while wasting away in a zombie-like stupor seeking out painlessness is not going to get your anywhere.
What is the answer?
The overall answer is simple. Learn to deal with the pain and still be able to keep moving. There are no painless movements. Fear, doubt, and uncertainty are the constant companions of those who do nothing. What they do realize is everyone feels those things. Some people just keep moving even though they feel fear, doubt, and uncertainty.
Movement is everything. Direction is optional.
I have people who are not sure what they want to do with their lives so the just sit. I say I don’t care what you do with your life as long as you are doing something… Even if that something ends in failure. Movement is the solution and any problem. It does not matter if it is a mile or a millimeter. Just MOVE. Then tomorrow move again. Then next week move a little further. It does not matter how fast. Just MOVE!
I made this up this morning but here is what READY means to me.
Rarely
Expects
Action
Distracted
for
Years
The life of a self help zombie who waits for the Magic Ready can be yours…. just give up.