I know this is hard to believe but the most successful people I know aren’t really trying that hard. So why does using overpowering effort not work? The answer is simple. The more effort you use to do one task the more mental energy you use. You end up exhausted. Just the idea that you have to use so much effort should tell you that you are doing something wrong. That much effort is only needed when you are trying to overcome some type of obstacle.
You brain is not designed for long term massive effort. It is designed for solving short term problems with bursts of creativity and reasoning power.
This is why sometimes the longer you think about something the more stuck you feel. The more lost you get and the less energy you have to solve the challenge.
We are just not designed to sit still and think. We are made to keep moving with short bursts of massive focused effort.
This is where the biology of your brain actually is designed to help you give up. You get mental rewards for giving up while rewards for success are not as long lasting. Your brain chemistry actually is sabotaging your success. When you give up you get a burst of serotonin and the feeling of relief. You brain then creates a story that makes giving up okay and even a better idea than trying harder.
It is an amazing survival mechanism if you think about it. Instead of sitting in one place trying to figure out how to cross a river and becoming food for a predator, you are rewarded for moving on and finding a different route or choice.
This is much different than what we do today and how we are taught to think about failure or giving up. We are now taught that giving up is bad. It means you failed and that you are a loser. So we sit and try to make things work that are just not going to work. We stay in jobs we hate because we feel we have no other choices. We stay on our life path because we are already so invested in it that we think we need to keep going in that direction. We even choose mates based on the qualities we think they should have rather than what we truly desire. We choose goals and how to get them and never vary or change our minds.
We are now taught NOT to change direction and NOT to ever give up.
-I know a guy who is a door to door salesman. The product he is selling is out of date. He has been broke for 10 years. He is bitter angry and has few friends. At the same time he will tell you why he needs to succeed at this and that he won’t look at any other fields. He just won’t give up.
-I know another guy who wants to meet a girl but keeps doing the same things over and over again that do not get any results. He also has decided only one kind of woman will do. So 5 years later he is still alone and frustrated.
-I know another person who goes on one diet after another trying to find the magic pill to losing weight only to get frustrated and fatter. They think a diet is the answer to everything so they keep making the same choice over and over and getting the same result.
-I know another guy who keeps getting the same job he hates over and over only to hate it and quitting in a very short time. He has been doing it for so long that he sees it as his only choice yet when he has an opportunity to do something different he shies away from it because he is in uncertain territory.
Have you ever done this kind of thing ?
When we use massive amounts of effort over and over we tend to just burn out. Even if we do get to the point we give up we end up sitting still instead of making a different choice and keeping moving.
When used correctly giving up is a valuable tool. It allows you to keep moving and that is the key. The second half is to keep moving and finding the right answer.
What is the answer? Know when to give up on the right things and change direction. Notice quickly what isn’t working and find another way.
Identify the obstacle and make adjustments and improvements there. This saves huge amounts of effort energy.
Embrace failure as a way of life. Every success story I have ever read starts with how many times they failed. If you never fail you never tried.
Learn the strategies that lead from failure to success. Knowing how to take failure and learn what direction to go next is the key to getting the life you desire.
Know what skills it takes to complete the task in front of you. From building relationships to physical agility, you have to decide what you need to learn to be a success.
Last… Identify the obstacles to getting what you want and learn how to overcome them. Learn how to make mental, physical and emotional changes needed to succeed.
Where is the best place to learn these things?
At our September Total Life Transformation Retreat
https://www.essential-skills.com/3dmind/september-total-life-transformation-retreat/
5 full days of life face to face skill building
4 two hour live pre training seminars online
3 months of follow up post trainings to keep you moving
Yeah I know .. you think this will cost thousands and thousands of dollars but… it is only 995 AND you can bring a friend for only 500 dollars more. Yes that is 2 for 1495.
You can even use a 5 payment plan if you sign up by August 1st.
Like I said others sell this kind of seminar for over 5000 dollars. Since this is our first Florida retreat it is a ridiculously low price. Next year this price will DOUBLE!!!
Ready to give up doing the same thing you always have done?